Sex is Still Around - Only Different

America is both a puritanical and prurient society. We shout family values, but the definition of family now extends to include two people of the same sex, chosen children, blended and extended relatives, and less and less of the once prevalent concept of Mom, Dad, 2.5 kids and Leave It To Beaver white picket fence bonds.

Sex sells and no matter what family value we promote, we are surrounded by this reality at every turn. Open any magazine, tune into most TV channels, watch any sport, even attend cultural high brow events such as the Opera, and you will find ads geared to get us in the crotch blasted from every angle.

The generation who witnessed the sudden availability of birth control, who "f—ked for peace," who lay down in streets against war and shouted "Never Trust Anyone Over Thirty" - are all over fifty and furthermore. We have become the age that we railed against.
We who once thought we had discovered Estrogen Avenue and Testosterone Boulevard are now not only over thirty but pushing fifty, sixty and more. And we find we still want to "do it." Only most of us find it simply isn't the same.

What has changed? For many of us, sex may be slower, less satisfying - or better than ever. But one thing is for sure; it certainly is different. My advice to my peers: Don't rush to your local MD (many of whom once were the purveyors of illegal drugs and have now become the doctors, respected prescribers of legal ones). Instead do something more complex but possibly longer-lasting. Change your attitude. Use your brain - it remains your most important sexual organ. Stop comparing yourself to what you once were and enjoy yourself as you are now. Remember, too, the largest sexual "organ" is your skin. Sex remains. But for most of us (blessedly), it is different than when we were mindlessly young.